Love is everything in a life of a woman. A man in the moment can’t think about his relationships; on the contrary, a woman, having serious problems with her love affair, can’t concentrate on her job.

Either agreeing with these statements or not, you cannot deny the fact that love and relationships are a huge part of a woman’s life. There are of course exceptions, although very few.

Let me take you back to early childhood. Girls play doll, marry them, and create toy families; they have tea parties, play mummy and daughter. After this stage, girls start to dream of their wedding day, that gorgeous wedding gown, the flowers, oh and we must not forget about the cake; their favourite topic for discussion is boys, boys and more boys. They think about their first date, a romantic first kiss, a perfect boyfriend, an ideal husband and a happy family.
Girls fall in love for the first time, and then start the saga named “women and relationships”. Each girl thinks that she is the unique one, the happiest or the most miserable. It doesn’t matter because love stories repeat the same scripts for every woman. Girls fall in and out of love, change boyfriends, make mistakes and yes they blame the men!! Oh the men!

When a woman starts a new relationship with a man, she seems to play the main role. Men are obsessed with passionate attempts to get aquatinted with an object of adoration, but in course of time the woman becomes too much attached to a partner, complaining of his not giving flowers or paying that tender attention anymore. A man has finally won his woman - she’s calling him everyday; turning for help, advice and understanding; she’s asking in a weepy voice “don’t you love me anymore?” - So does he still have to claim his individual property? His own logic says he doesn’t. Women and their relationships is the great encyclopedia of mistakes. Women tend to forget that the less they show their affection, the more they are appreciated by their partners.
 
Women and relationships tell an endless story of a constant search for the Ideal MAN that – and that’s proved by science – doesn’t exist.  As a result, women try to change male dates in a way to meet their innocent dreams of Mr. Prince Charming on a White Horse. Usually, it never works - he gets annoyed, she gets disappointed AND they may or may not live happily ever after (separately of course), then I’m afraid the cycle thus continues!!!!

Now let me get to the next saga, who is choosing whom? We thought that it is the men who chose. They usually first start an acquaintance with a woman, ask her for a phone number, call her first, offer to go out together and etc and let’s not forget the lame pick up lines”. The most obvious sign, as it seems, that it is a woman who waits for a man to make her a proposal. At that is the order verified by ages.

Still, Scientists claim that the situation can be a little different in reality. They say that a woman makes her choice more carefully and attentively than a man. She’s more capricious and fastidious while searching for a partner. A woman looks first at man’s social status, his financial affairs. She needs not a person to watch and admire but a partner to rely on. Men as everybody know it, love with the eyes. So the beauty and the sexuality of a woman are more important. Of course later he will have to deal with her character but he isn’t looking that far ahead, where as a woman is from the first stages orientating on a long-lasting relationship.

Both men and women claim that the character of a potential partner is more important for them than the appearance, but on the first date men still get attracted with the beauty of a woman while a woman is trying to find out who that man really is!

The explanation of this lays in the evolutionary history. Women were risking much more when choosing a partner and had to be more attentive in making her choice. After having sex, a man could always get up and leave and a woman could get pregnant. So a woman is historically orientated on choosing a man to build a family with. Nowadays the situation is of course quite different, women are more independent and the process of conception is put under control but the biological nature of the human is progressing slower than their social one, so the instinct still plays a considerable role in our lives. So in saying that, a woman probably isn’t searching for a husband or any serious relations at all on a first date, but unconsciously she is valuating the validity of this man to create a family (her dream family).

Have you ever heard a seemingly normal woman saying something like, "I don't know what I do to turn men off. I seem to push them away. Maybe I'm too demanding, or not demanding enough. Men are so confusing."

And it could be that very same day that you hear a seemingly normal man, unrelated to the first woman, complaining: ‘I don't get women. I must be doing something wrong. Women are so hard to understand."

When men and women get together, there are, in effect, two worlds—his and hers. They have different values, priorities, and habits. They play by different rules.   

Scientists have come to accept that a few fundamental differences between men and women are biological. It turns out that men's and women's brains, for example, are not only different, but the way we use them differs too. Women have larger connections and a more frequent interaction between their brain's left and right hemispheres. This accounts for a woman’s ability to have better verbal skills and intuition. Men, on the other hand, have greater brain hemisphere separation, which explains their skills for abstract reasoning and visual-spatial intelligence. Poet Robert Bly describes women's brains as a "superhighway" of connection while men’s brains connections are compared to a "little crookedly country road.'"

Different habits of men and women are explained by different roles in the process of evolution. Although life conditions have changed, both men and women tend to follow their biological programs.

Men tend to retain a firm sense of direction – they need to trace the game, catch it, and find the way home, while women have a better peripheral vision that helps them to see what’s happening around the house, to spot approaching danger, to notice changes in their children’s behaviour and appearance. Men’s brains are programmed to hunt, which explains their narrow range of vision, while women’s brains are able to decipher a wider range of information and may I add do more than one activity at any one given time – something I always laugh at!

When entering a room, men look for exits, estimating a possible threat, and ways of escape, while women pay attention to guests’ faces to find out who they are and how they feel. Men are able to sort out information and archive it in their head. Women tend to ‘rewind’ the information over and over again. The only way to stop thinking of the problems is to talk it over. When a woman shares her problems with a man, she is not looking for solutions – she needs someone to listen to her.

Which brings me to my next topic or should I say that next stage – love! Some say that we are born to love and that love is the meaning and the aim of our lives. Many people believe that it is a divine magical power that connects two loving hearts. For a very long time, people have always sort the meaning or asked about love, what it is, we have written books, songs have been written and sung and let’s not forget movies! Christians would say that God teaches us to love each other, the most skeptical materialists would blame it all on the chemical processes and hormones, BUT romantic people would stand for the theory that each of us has his or her half on the Earth. Whatever love really is – the humanity definitely loves it.

Love is opposite to selfishness, because it’s always heading to some other person but you. It’s the highest point of human development. One voluntary gives up a great part of his/her own freedom. Love is giving by its nature. A person feels satisfaction and happiness not from receiving but from and seeing one happy. Two individuals completing one another form some spiritual union in which one is happy because the other is happy and one knows that he or she loves because he or she knows he/she would do anything it takes to make the other.

Love has its magical power to overcome all troubles, heal illnesses, and create wonders. In critical life situations it gives people the strength to survive, to hold on however tough the living gets. And it all comes from the knowledge that you’re not alone in this world.

But everyone should be mindful that love arises not between angels but between people with all their little sins and flows. So the mistakes, problems and conflicts in love are in fact normal, they all come from our human’s nature. But the clear feeling of love is worth all the troubles one has to walk through to gain it. As we know Rome wasn’t built in a day, the same thing with love. There isn’t any perfect art of loving. It’s always a road laid with compromises, everyday battles – not with the one you love, but with you. That’s how love makes us better. For everyone this way is personal. You can never predict how the relationship will develop but it’s in your ability to make it better.

In most cases we think: this is true love, when in fact it’s not. But then if this isn’t love than what it is? There are plenty of things that we confuse with love.
 
It could be just the basic instinct. The feelings can be passionate and crazy, but in fact both people may want only sex. And after all the misunderstanding starts, and once infatuated lovers will find out that they have nothing in common and sometimes they don’t even know what to talk about anymore.

Another variant is when people lack support, care and attention to that person or they are just scared to stay single. Being with someone can be a habit when one simply got used to the other. It can either be a sick addiction or some self-interest. People call these types of relationships “love” just by mistake or trying to conceal the true nature of it.

What does real love look and feel like? Maybe it’s when two people seem to know each other for ages and perhaps in the past lives? They can go on talking and talking and conversation never lacks topics and never gets dull. Or people don’t have to say anything because they understand each other without words. And those moments, minutes and even hours of silence are never uncomfortable. True love is when partners complete one another, when together is a sense of peace! The whole world with it’s sufferings and problems doesn’t exist and nothing even matters.

True love means understanding. One trusts another more than him/herself and feels ready to satisfy every little need of a partner. Two people don’t stop for a second looking into each other eyes. Total Bliss! Yes Love is a wonderful wonderful thing, although would it really exist if man and woman were the same? If we didn’t want to change each other? Let’s take a look at my next topic:-

From the day a person is born, gender is an easy way to categorise people. When you are a member of one group, it's easy to spot differences rather than similarities in members of the other group. However, men and women share more similarities than one might think.

Let’s look at some of them.

- Both men and women are self-centered and selfish. Both sides are taking their narrow views on the issue; so don’t waste your time, trying to change your partner by imposing your values and opinions. We all want the other side to be cooperative, living up to our standards and expectations. However, both sides are rebellious, vindictive, and egocentric; therefore, neither side ever yields.

- Both men and women may be willing to sacrifice their interests or values to please the second half at the beginning of dating; but eventually, as a relationship develops further, they will start protecting themselves, and become selfish again. Both sides are forced to be stubborn by others' criticism to sustain their dignity and principles.

- Both sides will start a fight. Either side will lose temper, if the other side keeps on adding fuel to the fire. Usually the male side is held responsible, because men are hitting a lot harder than women.

- Deep inside everyone is looking for love. Both sides need proper care, getting support, help or encouragement when we are sick, feeling low, or make mistakes. Also, a woman needs more company and attention to her inside feelings and men need care about his outside habits, like cleaning up.

- Both sides need appreciation from the others. Recognition is directly linked to our sense of value, attitude, and zest for life.
- Men like to compare women, and women like to compare men. Men rate women by their appearance; women rank men by their wealth, looks, and vehicles they drive.

- Both men and women have biological cycles. On certain days of the month women tend to be more emotional. The reason is an excessive amount of liquid in their bodies and brains during PMS. Although men don’t have periods, their moods and energy levels are also cyclic. If you know your partner long enough, you will learn to recognise the signals of such cycles and cope with them.

- Both sides are willing to give advice, even if no one is asking their opinion. Usually the more knowledgeable side will give advice more actively, and if both sides think they are more informed, the arguments will be endless.

- Both sides are jealous. Deep inside men and women are exactly the same in jealousy, but usually men can hide it better than a woman.

- Both man and woman are suspicious. The only difference is a woman has higher alertness, they will carefully observe the slightest change in the man’s behaviour, while men will usually disregard or take them longer to aware from female.

- Both sides have trouble being dependable. Simply because we usually make promises on the spur of the moment, without considering thoroughly about whether we have enough abilities and patience to keep them. Usually men are forced to make more promises than women.

- Both sides are denying responsibilities, especially when it comes to dealing with their children. Our rebellious spirit will not accept any blame for not taking good care of the children; we will strike back with the same accusations.

All that aside, the world wouldn’t be what it is today without the complications of love.  Imagine being a child without the dream of love! Those butterflies in your stomach when you do have that kiss you’ve always dreamt about and let’s not forget about the make up sex!!!

Love is a wonderful thing and it surely does make the world go round. I believe that if we stopped everything we have done throughout time – love just wouldn’t be the same!